The balance between holding on and letting go

“Life is a balance of holding on and letting go” -Rumi

What does the term ‘holding on’ bring to mind? Something to lean on when you stumble? Something that is precious to you?

You are defined by what you hold on to. You hold on to people, beliefs, possessions, opinions, memories... Over time, these form what you identify as 'norm'. And together, these become your comfort zone - their familiarity lending a sense of safety. You feel defined by what you choose to hold on to.

However, you could also be holding on to anger, guilt, regrets, grudges... You could be holding on to a relationship that has ended. Or a person that has chosen to move on. Or the life you used to live. You might not consciously be of aware when the comfort zone became a stifling stranglehold; something that is draining you of energy in an unhealthy manner.

Learning to let go may be one of the most difficult things you do. The idea of letting go can seem painful, the thought of a future without this person or relationship or possession can seem overwhelming. However, holding on could be hurting you much more than letting go would.

Letting go makes room for healthier, more fulfilling and authentic things. We need less of what depletes our health, and more of what rejuvenates and reenergizes us. We open ourselves to new opportunities and beginnings by ceasing to hold and control toxic, unhealthy things.

Take a moment to reflect on what you are holding on to. Ask yourself if this is in fact, holding you back. What prevents you from letting go?

Finding your Mind's Oasis

An oasis is a patch of green amidst a desert landscape. Historically, these have been spots for merchants and traders to rest and replenish their resources. With the stresses of our lives, we too need an oasis – to relax and reflect; to regain our inner balance and to be able to face our challenges with renewed energy. Taking some time for yourself is not just helpful, but necessary! We know all too well the risks of burnout and exhaustion. It isn’t always possible to make drastic changes in your lifestyle and cut back on the work load. However, despite these limitations, there is one thing that everyone can do. And that is finding a little time on a regular basis – perhaps once a week or fortnight – and dedicate this to doing anything that you find joy in.

Taking some time for yourself is not just helpful, but necessary! We know all too well the risks of burnout and exhaustion. It isn’t always possible to make drastic changes in your lifestyle and cut back on the work load. However, despite these limitations, there is one thing that everyone can do: finding a little time on a regular basis – perhaps once a week or fortnight – and dedicate this to doing anything that you find joy in.

It doesn’t have to be any particular activity. In fact, it doesn’t have to be an activity at all if that suits you best! You might find joy in reading a book, or running or painting or listening to music or meeting people or visiting a spa. Whatever it is you choose to do, remember to enjoy this time without guilt or worry.

If you practice this on a regular basis, you will start to see the effect yourself. Feeling energized, happier and more connected to people around you are just some of the outcomes of setting aside time for yourself.