Boundaries in counselling

In my previous article, I described counselling as "a process of healing, which is defined by certain boundaries". To understand what counselling is, and how it works, it is important to know the meaning of boundaries. Literally speaking, they are limits which are mutually agreed upon, in order to ensure the safety and well-being of both clients and counsellors.

Boundaries are behaviour patterns that are agreed upon between a client and counsellor (for example, beginning each session at a pre-decided time). Such boundaries help to give a structure to the relationship. They ensure the smooth running of the process. Some boundaries are implicit. Such as refraining from a romantic or sexual relationship with a client. Others are discussed with the client and can be negotiated. Laying down and respecting boundaries are core aspects of a successful counselling relationship.

In any counselling setup, it is the responsibility of the counsellor to uphold the safety and well-being of their clients. A lot of times, people come to counselling because there is some sort of chaos or disorder in their lives. In the process of finding meaning in this chaos, it is important to have some sort of structure to hold you up. Boundaries are this support net. In this sense, they have both structural and functional value. Open discussion of expected patterns and behaviours allows you, as a client, to feel a sense of security.

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